Nose Rings Are Not Only For Bulls
Did you know that a child, as young as 10 years, can lead a 2,000 pound bull around by a string that is attached to a ring in the bull’s nose? The bull’s nose is very tender, and when the bull senses a tug on the string, it quickly moves in the direction the child is leading. This seems simple enough to understand in regards to an animal, but what about when the ring gets put into your nose? I personally learned this when the Holy Spirit taught me a “spiritual” lesson about what it’s like to have a ring in your nose.
One day, the Holy Spirit spoke to me and directed me to put an invisible ring in my nose with an invisible string attached to the ring. Then, I was to imagine placing the string in my mom’s hand. Like the 2,000-pound bull being led by the young child, whenever I sensed tension between the direction I wanted to go and the direction Mom wanted to go, the Holy Spirit would prompt me to quickly move with Mom for the tension to dissolve.
This peacemaking action isn’t new. David, after being anointed king by the prophet Samuel, refused to allow division to arise between himself and King Saul. Instead, David continued to submit to Saul’s leadership, while Saul was still on the throne. As I learned to yield to Mom’s leadership, the Holy Spirit blessed me with peace, joy, and rest in our relationship, and God filled in the chasm between us by His Holy Spirit.
A year has come and gone since Mom graduated to her eternal home. There is no doubt, she is still praying about the ministry she led for nearly 4 decades. I’m sure she is still aware that CFN is covered with prayer by multitudes of her friends, which is a tremendous blessing for the ongoing success of the ministry. Even though, in the early years, she may have wondered if her youngest child, the baby of the family, would ever have the authority within him to lead the great ministry of Christ For The Nations, I’m sure that over the years she saw I had indeed learned the lessons to be able to lead the way.
God took me through a discipleship school, and Mom was my instructor. After graduating from Bible college, I married my lovely wife, Ginger. We served as missionaries for four years with Youth With A Mission. We returned home at the passing of my dad to assist Mom in her new role as President of Christ For The Nations. Of course, I had grandiose ideas for CFN’s success and for assisting God in building His Kingdom.
I was young, strong, energetic, and ambitious, but I was also immature in my walk with God. Mom, on the other hand, had years of experience, wisdom, and knew the godly way. Mom didn’t have the same great aspirations that I envisioned for the future of CFN’s ministry. As a result, tension continued to mount, and a chasm of disunity was being created between us. Unfortunately, I didn’t realize that, although my ideas were good, I still needed to be trained and to learn how to develop a submissive heart, before I could be used by God to help lead His work. God was not going to release authority in my life before there was a spirit of submission in my heart.
Case In Point
One classic example of the Holy Spirit’s efforts to work submission in my life began one Friday evening just before it was time to leave the office. At around 4:30 PM, Mom called and asked me to deliver some new plants that she had bought for her home about 30 minutes from campus. Although she lived on campus, from time-to-time, she would visit her off-campus home to get away on weekends to write and enjoy her family and friends. I informed her that I had dinner planned with my family and an engagement afterwards. So, I was unable to assist her. Mom quickly directed me in finding a couple of fellows from the men’s dorm who could first assist me in taking care of her request. I quickly repeated what I had already told her. She again reiterated her request, only this time more forcefully. I stood firm and refused to help her. I suggested she contact the maintenance department to run her errand and politely hung up the phone. Somehow, I could tell by the tone of her voice that she was not pleased with me. The chasm between us continued to enlarge.
Lesson One Begins
Over the next 15 minutes, I began to sense that the Lord was not pleased with me, either, especially when my engagement after dinner was playing ball with the fellows. I quickly sensed I had grieved the Holy Spirit more than I had grieved Mom. I calculated that I actually could run Mom’s errand and arrive at the gym a little later than planned—if I hurried. To Mom’s surprise, I phoned her back, asking where the plants were and to let her know that I had rearranged my schedule to run her errand. Mom didn’t seem impressed that I had agreed with her request. She informed me that the plants were outside in the company truck, and the keys were with the business director. I quickly approached the business director who informed me that half of the plants were his. He asked if I would please take his portion to his home. I replied that I would, even though I knew it would take me an extra half hour.
Without asking any students to help, I was on my way. When I completed the chore, I returned the company truck and keys to where I found them. I went home and changed clothes, grabbed a bite of food, and went to the gym, arriving nearly two hours late. By being tardy I had to wait my turn to rotate into the game. After several hours of exercise, I returned home, showered, and retired to bed. I sensed I had pleased the Holy Spirit by yielding to Mom’s directive. However, there was more to learn. The lesson of submission was far from being over.
Confusion Attempts to Derail the Lesson
Around 10:30 PM, there was a knock on our apartment door. It was my father-in-law, Clark. He informed me that my mom was desperate to get in touch with me, and would I please call her immediately? I apologized to him for having to come over, as we had disconnected our phone. I called Mom and asked her what the problem was. She quickly asked me where the truck was. I said, “I returned it where I found it.” She informed me that my uncle was waiting for the truck. I told her that she had not informed me that it was the truck my uncle used. Again she quickly commented, “Get the truck to your uncle; his tools are in the back, and he has been waiting for more than an hour past his bedtime.” My father-in-law overheard the conversation and offered to take the truck to my uncle. I apologized again for the inconvenience to him, thanked him for the offer, and I returned again to bed.
About an hour later there was another knock on our door. This time it was my mother-in-law, Mildred. She informed me that my mom was desperately trying to get in touch with me. I thought, “Now what?” I called Mom. The tone of her voice indicated that she was aggravated with me. She asked me, again, “Dennis, where is the truck? Your uncle is waiting for the truck.” I reported to her that the truck had been delivered. Clark had taken it over an hour ago. She informed me that the truck was not there. Since Mom’s apartment was next to my uncle’s, she was aware that the truck had not yet arrived. She ended the conversation by repeating, “Dennis, get your uncle’s truck back to him now.”
Now I was really confused. I apologized to my mother-in-law, who had gotten out of bed, dressed, and drove to our apartment. I asked her if she knew where Clark was. She said she did not know; she had been asleep when Mom called to ask her if she would get in touch with me. I deeply apologized again for all the confusion and inconvenience she had experienced, which she immediately responded, “No problem.”
I headed right over to the office, all the while thinking, “What in the world has happened. Did Clark get sidetracked? Could he not find the keys? Did he look for them in my office, rather than the business director’s office?” When I arrived at the office I found the truck right where I had parked it, and the keys were right in the middle of the business director’s desk where I had left them. I immediately drove the truck to my uncle who was still up, waiting anxiously. I apologized profusely to him for the inconvenience the waiting had caused him and explained the best I could about what had happened. I could tell that he was not a “happy camper.” Now, I’m really concerned about what happened to Clark. Even with the help of campus security, I was unable to locate him. I eventually returned home, but it was well after midnight.
The next morning, I quickly called my in-laws. Mildred answered the phone. I asked her if Clark was okay. She informed me that all was well. I asked her what happened to Clark during the night. She responded that she was not aware of his whereabouts as she had gone to sleep before Clark had returned home. I apologized again and felt better that everything seemed to be under control. The Holy Spirit, however, was not finished with my opportunity to grow in submission, so He could release His authority in my life.
Chapter Two Begins
On Monday morning, as I was walking to the office, I met Clark. I inquired as to what had happened Friday night, regarding his offer to return the company truck to my uncle. “Oh,” he said, “As I was about to drive away from the office parking area, the director of maintenance drove by and asked me where I was going with the company truck? I informed him that you had asked me to take it to your uncle’s apartment and leave it there, since he was concerned about the safety of his tools. The maintenance supervisor requested that the truck be left right where it was as it would be safe. Next I asked, “Where did you go after that?” He informed me that he went over to the men’s dormitory and dabbled with a ham radio set in one of the rooms. I was somewhat relieved to know he was alright. Then I shared the rest of the story, with all the confusion that ensued. We were both amused. He knew nothing of the continued events.
Suddenly, Mom arrived on the scene. As we entered the office building, I asked her if she had heard the rest of the story. She responded, “The rest of what story?” As I began to share the evening’s events, a number of employees started listening. After explaining the whole situation to her, she turned and walked off to her office adding, “We will forgive you this time.”
I stood there flabbergasted. “What did I do wrong?” I thought. I never even received a thank you for delivering Mom’s plants. As I walked away in frustration to my office, and the staff was chuckling, I looked up to the ceiling and said, “Did you hear that God?” Immediately, I heard the Holy Spirit ask, “Who are you serving, Dennis, your mom or Me?” Next, I heard Him say, “I thank you, Dennis, for delivering the plants.”
Lesson Learned
I learned a tremendous lesson under Mom’s leadership, which I believe God used to prepare me for my future. Without a submissive spirit, God cannot release His authority for leadership in doing His work. I eventually realized that Mom had to become strong and bold in her leadership role, especially if she was truly going to impact the world as God had called her to do. As we know, the enemy of God has made giant strides in establishing man’s dominant leadership in this world. What God wants the world to know and experience, especially among Christians, is that God not only can, but will use women in leadership to help build His Kingdom.
There were more lessons to learn, but eventually Mom surprised us by asking the Board of Christ For The Nations to elect her younger son to follow in her footsteps and become the President of the ministry. Apparently, after more than a decade, Mom felt that I was ready for leadership. It has been 25 years since I accepted the position of President, and I realize now, more than ever, how submission is connected to authority. In fact, authority from God never comes until one has learned and developed a submissive spirit. Without submission and humility, there is no God-given authority. Maybe God has been working this principle in your life, teaching you the necessity to learn the importance of submission. Maybe God has a nose ring for you, too. Do you know whose hand He is asking you to place the attached string into?
Today, God has granted me an authority that astounds me; it’s one I have not even desired. Yet, I am aware of the magnitude of responsibility that comes with this gift. May I use my God-given authority to always please Him.